Feminism remains misunderstood. Many women think that it culminates at sexual freedom while many end up using gender for favours even as men become increasingly embarrassed, confused, and covert misogynists. There are uncomfortable issues – little girls need much more to aspire for than being an Item girl (desire me) or a Cinderella (woo me) or a Daddy’s girl (protect me), intimidated men need not veer towards beards and over-sized vehicles and shoes to compensate for the intimidation, and chivalry need not be the biggest casualty of über-feminism. The interspace between genders remains grey and the LGBTQIA community in the shadows. A frank, street dialogue on feminism and liberalism is missing; everybody’s shooting in the dark. Hence, this book.
Discussions on feminism inevitably become polarised, both sides taking rigid stands and finally stone-walling each other. Even in the liberal category, there is a conflict between those who are thinking from their brains (3rd wave) and those thinking from their private parts (2nd wave). It became apparent to me that if the two sides were brought together and issues debated in a sequential manner, one could make the sides “talk to each other”. It was going to be a journey so I tried to superimpose it with an actual journey to make the discussion less academic.
Here is her bio-
Shalini Singh is an educator based in New Delhi. Born into an über-conservative rural community, and exposed to liberal urban education, she balances two contradictory social dynamics, as also between work and family with two college-going kids and a husband.